The Best Advice I Can Give About Surviving MST (MSTy’s Story | Part 3)
How MSTy found peace in learning and embracing the positive relationships in her life after MST — her words of wisdom and advice for you.
In the final part of her story, MSTy’s insights about how trauma shaped her daily life over time—and how choosing joy every day, gratitude for close relationships and love, and continuously being inspired by books serve as inspiration for listeners and viewers.
Accountability Through Reported Patterns of Predatory Behavior
Parts 1 and 2 of MSTy’s story grimly reminded us of the harshest realities of MST. The pain and confusion of being in a new environment after being traumatized by people who seemed trustworthy and the harassment that followed. Sadly, that part was identical to every story shared on the podcast. Through the pain and beginning to heal, MSTy was able to create a digital crime map of MST, to begin the arduous process of unmasking hidden predators throughout our military’s history. She found a way for survivors to process and give a name and space to their pain even if they weren’t able to speak it aloud.
In Part 3 of her story, MSTy shares the quieter, more reflective side of surviving military sexual trauma: the everyday and long-term battles of healing, the ways she found comfort, and the choices she continues to make—every single day—to stay grounded and whole.
I don’t know who needs to hear this but…
We dive into the things most survivors don’t always talk about out loud: the long-term physical toll of trauma, how hard it is to “just be present” for the people you love, and the guilt that comes with realizing how much of your life has been lived in survival mode. MSTy talks about the books, the dogs, the positive memes—yes, even the ones that start with “I don’t know who needs to hear this…”—that kept her going when there weren’t any other tools.
This part of her story is not about the worst of what happened. It’s about the slow, stubborn, defiant act of healing anyway.
The People Who Stayed
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As she reflects on the decades she spent “winging it” before finding solace and education in therapy, books, and online communities, MSTy describes how her life improved because of the people who helped her see herself differently: a best friend in the military, a civilian coworker who never got tired of listening, and a husband who tells her, “I ain’t scared,” every time she worries she’s too much.
In the face of a culture that told her to be silent, their love was a was a mirror and a soft place to reaffirm herself when times got difficult to manage.
Make Time for Healing Today
This episode closes with the kind of wisdom you can only get from someone who’s lived through the long haul of unresolved trauma. MSTy shares the physical effects—tight muscles, inflammation, cognitive struggles—and the regret of waiting so long to start healing and how it impacted her relationships and bonds with her children.
Whether you’re just beginning or decades into this journey, her voice reminds us that healing can start at any moment—and you don’t have to be alone when it does.
“Make time for it today.” - MSTy
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MSTy’s final chapter isn’t about how the story ends—it’s about how survivors live through the in-between. She’s not here to be inspirational or dramatic. She’s here to be real. Her honesty about everyday coping tools and the physical price of trauma is a gift, especially for those who are just now starting to name their pain.
She wants listeners to know: you are not broken. And you’re not too late.
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Episode Trigger Warning Index
This episode contains references to the following topics. Please use this guide to skip if needed:
(00:14 - 00:31) On-screen details of MST markers
(01:26 - 01:33) Mentions of mental health conditions like dissociation and panic attacks
(11:25 - 14:22) Discussion of long-term physical toll, regrets about not being emotionally present
Takeaways from This Conversation
Every marker matters in the healing journey.
Books and pets can be powerful coping mechanisms.
Gratitude and positivity are essential for mental health.
Finding supportive communities is crucial for healing.
It's important to prioritize emotional wellness.
Trauma can have long-lasting physical and cognitive effects.
Starting the healing journey is possible with available resources.
Support from loved ones can make a significant difference.
Sharing experiences can help others feel seen and heard.
Your voice can drive change and accountability.
Reflection Journal Prompt
What did MSTy’s voice help you realize about your own?
Spend a few minutes after listening to reflect or journal. What did you feel during this episode? What are you still thinking about? What systems need to change — and what part could you play in that change?
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You are not alone. We believe you. You matter.
The final part in MSTy’s three part series goes live Tuesday April 15, 2025.
